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You hit it right in the center of the target for me with; "We write our way out of things we can’t solve." That is why I sat in my husband's hospital and rehab rooms all day and often all night writing my thoughts on what the heck was happening (physically, emotionally, medically) as, together, we struggled through the devastating consequences of his cancer and strokes. Writing the words as they spewed forth from my head as incoherent thoughts, helped me understand and cope. It was when enough readers suggested I write a book that I began to realize I might be able to help others. And so the book was written - not without much emotional pain. And now my daughter is struggling to make sense of her husband's recent stroke and her new life as caregiver. That which I had experienced is allowing me to support her.

And, that is why we caregivers write. And blog. And post. And reach out to others. We have learned much that we can share. The problem arises when a caregiver starts to believe he/she knows it all. We don't. And never will.

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Sep 27, 2021Liked by Cori Carl

This is perhaps my favourite post of all my favourite Cori reflections. Thank you! And for further musings on this subject, I highly recommend Eva Kittay's Love's Labor or her Learning From My Daughter. Because this is really about moral philosophy - Eva's bailiwick.

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