Cori, your post comes at a time in my life - right now - when I have to make two difficult phone calls offering condolences to friends on the loss of their husbands. I know I can't make it "better" nor would I offer the old platitudes of, "time will heal," or "be strong," or "he's in a better place" or or or - well, you know what they might be. I shall tell them how very much I care and also feel the loss. And I will understand that I am doing my best and that is the most comforting words my friends need to hear at this time.
As much as we know we can't control how someone else feels, our empathy makes it tempting to try. Anna Sale's reminder is helpful for all of us to hear. I'm glad it reached you at the right moment. I'm looking forward to reading her book and seeing what other wisdom she has to share.
Cori, your post comes at a time in my life - right now - when I have to make two difficult phone calls offering condolences to friends on the loss of their husbands. I know I can't make it "better" nor would I offer the old platitudes of, "time will heal," or "be strong," or "he's in a better place" or or or - well, you know what they might be. I shall tell them how very much I care and also feel the loss. And I will understand that I am doing my best and that is the most comforting words my friends need to hear at this time.
As much as we know we can't control how someone else feels, our empathy makes it tempting to try. Anna Sale's reminder is helpful for all of us to hear. I'm glad it reached you at the right moment. I'm looking forward to reading her book and seeing what other wisdom she has to share.