Rumination

Is it about her or me?

I spent a good portion of this week thinking about how I could help a friend face an uncomfortable reality she's been avoiding. My friend is smart and capable, someone I've gone to for advice plenty of times, so I wanted to find a way to nudge things forward without making her feel critiqued.

Eventually I realized I was ruminating on her situation because I was avoiding an uncomfortable reality in my own life.

It's funny how it's easier to see our own behavior mirrored in the behavior of others. Often the things about other people that I fixate on are really about me, not them.

Now, if I could just get easier at catching myself when I do it! Better to figure it out after a few days of rumination than never at all.

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Sins Invalid is having an online workshop on Centering and Practicing Disability Justice on July 11.

This whole list of life lessons is lovely. I think number eleven is most relevant for us.

Tired of trying to protect someone from the endless scam phone calls? Many phone service providers and phones have settings so that only people in your contacts or on a list of pre-approved numbers can call.

How can we get more places to add requirements for adult changing facilities into the building code and provide funding for upgrades? It can be done.

The US government has the right to monitor and regulate insurance claim denials. Only they don't bother to. There's new scrutiny being paid to medical providers engaging in insurance fraud.

Congratulations to The Caregiver's Voice for reaching 25 years! In 1998 I was also venturing online for the first time. While Brenda was creating a space to discuss dementia care, I was an angsty 13-year-old finding song lyrics, chatting with friends on ICQ, and doing my best to find trouble in an era before Google.